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Don’t Live with Regrets

Dr Elizma van der Smit. February 2018

· Mind,Life Skills

Everyone is going to have some regrets. You may have made a mistake with your career,or you passed on “the one who got away.” Whatever it may be, there is nothing that can be doneabout those regrets. So move on.

Although there seems to be a discrepancy of the exact passage, Buddhists believe that you should not dwell and the past, nor should you dream about the future. The idea is live in the present. To do that, you need to let go of the past. While some people believe you should plan for the future, you should not focus on this alone. You need to live your life.

Many people get stuck in the past, and it can cripple them from living a quality life. They continue to bring up events that have happened and some even use it as an excuse to feel sorry for themselves. When this happens, they will not progress in their lives. It can get so bad they even start to take on negative behaviors such as heavy alcohol use or drugs. Once this happens, it can be difficult to break this habit.

If someone close to you passes on and you have regrets about your life together, realize they would want you to move on. They aren’t coming back. Instead of thinking about those regrets, think about the good times you shared. Then, try to get to a point where you can move on. It will take time. You have the right to be happy again. But, focusing on the regrets will prevent you from getting there.

It is okay to reflect on regrets and determine what you did wrong. This canhelp you not to repeat what you have done. The key is not to makethe regrets the central part of your life. Don’t let them define you. Recognize the wrongs and apologize for them, even if to yourself. Then, chart out a course that puts you on the path to happiness.

If you find yourself still struggling with your regrets, try to use affirmations to break free of them. Come up with messages to yourself that are of the form, “no regrets.” Keep saying these message as this will help you shape your conscious around them. This toowill take some time,and you need to be consistent. Don’t worry too much if you revert to your regrets from time-to-time. Just pick up with those affirmations after that happens.

This post is for informational purposes only. It should not be considered therapy.This blog is only for informational and educational purposes and should not be considered therapy or any form of treatment. We are not able to respond to specific questions or comments about personal situations, appropriate diagnosis or treatment, or otherwise provide any clinical opinions. If you think you need immediate assistance, call your local doctor/psychologist or psychiatrist or the SADAG Mental Health Line on 011 234 4837. If necessary, please phone the Suicide Crisis Line on 0800 567 567 or sms 31393.

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This blog is only for informational and educational purposes and should not be considered therapy or any form of treatment. We are not able to respond to specific questions or comments about personal situations, appropriate diagnosis or treatment, or otherwise provide any clinical opinions. If you think you need immediate assistance, call your local doctor/psychologist or psychiatrist or the SADAG Mental health Line on 011 234 4837. If necessary, please phone the Suicide Crisis Line on 0800 567 567 or sms 31393.