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Which One Are You? Identify your anger style 

 

Dr. Jekyll and Mr. Hyde  

Dr. Jekyll and Mr. Hyde are commonly pretty relaxed individuals- till something goes wrong, and then look out! They may go from zip to 60 in the flash of an eye. They have really low frustration tolerances and will take out their exasperation on whom or whatever is sensed to be inducing a hitch in their lives: be it colleagues, loved ones, traffic, a lift that's slow in arriving, you name it. Frequently, when they chill out, they realize that they went overboard and will apologize to whoever got on the receiving end of the attack. This might work the first time or two, but individuals frequently become alienated when the same thing occurs again and again. Frequently, they’ll see themselves as having a rage issue and vow to not react that way any longer, only to do so again and again. They frequently wish they could change but feel themselves too weak to do so.

The Hider  

Hiders internalize their rage and seethe in quiet. Frequently they'll play back a scene again and again in their minds telling themselves what they'd do otherwise if given the opportunity. They might have a close acquaintance or spouse to whom they sound off to, but it's extraordinarily uncommon that they have a real outward expression of rage. When they do convey their anger, it's often to the extreme, as all the repressed frustration comes bursting out of them.

The Chooser  

Choosers are like to Hiders in that they don‘t express their rage toward the individual or the situation that really caused them upset. Rather, they determine a reason to become sore at somebody or something else (commonly somebody to whom they don‘t feel threatened by). For instance, they might get riled by his or her boss, but rather than expressing it toward the boss s/he might head home and shout at the youngsters for some petty reason.

The Cactus  

The Cactus is perpetually crabby. They're really good at complaining about issues, but not so great at doing anything to alter their situation. They forever have a complaint about something - their occupation, their relationship with their mate, the bleak deal life handed them, how easy other people have it compared to them, your hairdo, how you raise your youngsters - you name it, and the Cactus will discover something amiss with it. The Cactus is frequently the most understood of the rage personalities as they frequently suffer from depression or an anxiety disorder. They often describe themselves as uncomfortable in their own skin. They frequently feel unvalued and unloved, which is frequently a precise assessment as their complaining makes it hard for those around them to have much understanding for them.

The Prosecutor  

Prosecutors are recognized for winning the debate but losing the war. That‘s because they'll question and question any sort of point that might disagree with theirs till they discover a flaw in their ―adversaries logic. A Prosecutor will never quit and frequently simply wear their "adversary" down till he or she buckles under out of pure exhaustion. Prosecutors might insist they're merely being logical and attempting to make a rational decision, but it may feel like anything but to be on the receiving end. They may frequently be sarcastic and cutting. They're arbitrary and frequently arrogant in tone.

The Frightener  

Frighteners are individuals whose chief way of expressing themselves when enraged is through physical or emotional ill-treatment. Anger or rage is deemed an effective tool in acquiring what they wish. They frequently come from abusive, or dispute ridden backgrounds in which rage was the chief way of resolving conflict. They might not really hit you, but they do scream, shout, throw things, hit walls, or slam doors all in an effort to fear to threaten and control the individual on the receiving end. They'll frequently ignore the needs or wishes of the victim. They might trust that their beliefs and decisions are more crucial than the victim's, even when the victim is amply capable of arriving at their own decisions about the matter.

The Turtle  

The Turtle is an example of somebody whose response pattern is to stop dead or submit. Turtles respond to troublesome situations by closing. You‘ve made a statement or asked a question to a Turtle and expect a fair and relevant reaction. What you get, though, is a yep. A nah, or possibly a grunt. Frequently you‘ll get zip. For some, unresponsiveness is a guarded way of addressing potentially painful interpersonal situations. Others utilize unresponsiveness as a sort of calculated hostility utilized to punish the victim.

The Sniper  

Snipers, as the name connotes, appear to come out of nowhere and frequently leave the recipient little room in which to react. They hide behind such shifty strategies as crude comments, sarcastic humor, barbed tones, or a roll of the eyes. They may utilize confusion as a weapon, by making irrelevant comments that throw individuals off track and leave them looking dopey. The aim is to make you look foolish and incompetent in front of others.

This post is for informational purposes only. It should not be considered therapy. This blog is only for informational and educational purposes and should not be considered therapy or any form of treatment. We are not able to respond to specific questions or comments about personal situations, appropriate diagnosis or treatment, or otherwise provide any clinical opinions. If you think you need immediate assistance, call your local doctor/psychologist or psychiatrist or the SADAG Mental Health Line on 011 234 4837. If necessary, please phone the Suicide Crisis Line on 0800 567 567 or sms 31393. 

This blog is only for informational and educational purposes and should not be considered therapy or any form of treatment. We are not able to respond to specific questions or comments about personal situations, appropriate diagnosis or treatment, or otherwise provide any clinical opinions. If you think you need immediate assistance, call your local doctor/psychologist or psychiatrist or the SADAG Mental health Line on 011 234 4837. If necessary, please phone the Suicide Crisis Line on 0800 567 567 or sms 31393.